, July 01, 2020 | More Post by

43, diagnosed at 38,

No family history, no known genetic mutation

Through a breast self-exam, Jennifer detected a lump in her breast that turned out to be stage 3A breast cancer. She received chemo, a bilateral mastectomy with reconstruction, and radiation. Her diagnosis occurred just as Jennifer was going through a difficult separation from her husband. While undergoing treatment, she continued working as a corrections case manager to provide for her two daughters. With no other family around, her daughters were her primary source of support, and knowing they were scared, Jennifer tried to keep life as normal as possible. She found H4TG after treatment. “I wasn’t sure what to expect, but right away the ladies welcomed me with open arms and hearts.” Jennifer says she has always been an “in the background” type of person, but she doesn’t want to be that any longer. “I want to be an example for my two daughters, that if they set their mind to something, they can do it. I want them to be proud that I’m their mom.” Jennifer admires that same ideal that emerged in the 1920s saying, “Women received their voices, and their opinions and thoughts meant something.” Jennifer also wishes to show other women that they are stronger than they think.

, June 03, 2020 | More Post by

50, diagnosed at 47

No family history, No known genetic mutation

Lisa never thought she’d get breast cancer, never did self-exams, and never had a mammogram. Luckily, a wellness incentive at work compelled her to get a mammogram on a mobile imaging bus. Even the callback for another test didn’t register on her radar, and she declined the second imaging appointment until they showed her the first image. Upon seeing the spot, she touched her breast and could feel a lump. When the doctor’s office suggested she bring someone to her appointment, she knew it didn’t bode well. Her sister was with her when Lisa heard the news that she had stage 2, HER2+ breast cancer and would be getting a lumpectomy, chemo, and radiation. A school bus driver and newly single mom to two children, she moved into her own place for the first time a month after the diagnosis. Since then, she’s been doing all kinds of things that she wouldn’t have done before. “I want to enjoy life and have no regrets. Since I met my Boober! girlfriends, I see I’m not the only one!” Lisa wants to show that the breast cancer survivors of H4TG are women of strength and courage, much like the women of the 1920s.

, May 19, 2020 | More Post by

H4TG wants to help support the businesses & those in the local community who have supported us! Many are facing difficult times during this time of social distancing; we send our love and support to all of you.  

Join Here for the Girls in showing our appreciation for these generous sponsors of A Calendar to Live By.

A.B. Harris Inc.
ABNB Federal Credit Union
AJ Nelson
An Angel on Earth
A-One Mobile Bookkeeping, Inc.
Beach Ford
Bill & Merriel Bowditch
Bob and Angie Perciak
Bruce Elliott – AXA Advisors
Casey Toyota
Charlie and Mari Ann Banks
Colonial Eye Care – Dr. Brent Segeleon
Compassionate Care
Dave and Chris Schwab
Davenport & Company
Deb Glover The Garden of Children Learning Center
Doiron Wealth Management
Dr. & Mrs. J. Christopher Paschold
Dr. Terryl and Sheri Times
Drs. Bruce & Cassianne Booth
Drs. Dean and Flavia Kostov
Drs. Henry and Christy Prillaman
Eastern Eye Associates
Erica Chigos-White, NP-C, MSN-FNP
Event Staffing/Staging Inc.
Extra Mile Landscapes
Greg and Alice Caldwell
Gregory Crisp
Harry & Judy Wason
Heather C. Morrow
Henry S. Branscome LLC
Hornsby House Inn
In Honor of Mona Smith
In Memory of Mom, Dorothy T. Byrne
Integrated Audio-Video, LLC
James A. Burden DDS and Associates
Janet McCaskey
Jayne Barnard Jennifer Reed, MD
Jerry & Barbara Stanek
Joy and Len Baxt
Knights of Columbus, Father N. J. Habets Council 4632
Lee & Betty Dooley
Libby Garrett
Liberty Warehousing, Inc.
Lorie Spence
Louise B. Lubin PhD
Lymphedivas
Massey Cancer Center, VCU Health
Melinda Dunn, MD
Michael Hollister
Myriad Genetic Laboratories
Nicholas and Vivian Vitullo
Nicole Yeshtokin, MD
Norfolk Plastic Surgery, PC
Nutritional Blessings, Melinda Pettingill, ND.
Paul and Rosemary Trible
Paul Hartmann, DDS
Pinnacle Business Solutions
Pirates of Chemo
Planet Chrysler Jeep Dodge Ram
Planet Subaru
Rick & Gin Marks in honor of Mary Beth Gibson
Riverside Health System
Robert & Laura Morrill
Rooms, Blooms, & More
Sasa Espino, MD
Scotland Street Salon
Scott, Ami, Asher & Avah Dodson
Sentara Healthcare
Sherry Kletzly – BHHS Towne Realty
Sherwood and Whitney Bowditch
Southside Regional Medical Center
Stephanie H. King
Steve & Karen Barrs
Stu Chumney
Sunday?s Sun Spa Shop
Susie Williams- Texas friend of the Boobers!
The Branch Family
The Byzewski Family
The Hague Center for Cosmetic & Plastic Surgery James Carraway, MD and Robert Schnarrs, MD
The Jacobs Group
The Leading Edge Networking Group of Williamsburg
Thomas W. and Cindy Meehan
Tim and Anne Sullivan
Tricia Russell in honor of Mari Ann Banks
TST Construction
Veterans United Foundation
Vincent & Raymon Bessix
Virginia Oncology Associates
Williamsburg Dental Group Drs. Butler, Fuller & Hornsby
Williamsburg Orthodontics
Williamsburg Plastic Surgery, Johnstuart Guarnieri, MD 
 *All businesses and individuals listed supported our mission in 2019 through sponsorship of  “A Calendar A to Live By.”  
Category: Blog

, May 14, 2020 | More Post by

H4TG wants to help support the businesses & those in the local community who have supported us! Many are facing hardships during this time of social distancing; we send our love and support to all of you.

Join Here for the Girls in showing our appreciation for these generous sponsors from our various signature events last year.

Each week, we will be sharing ways to support other businesses and community donors, so stay tuned to our blog!

A.B. Harris, Inc

American Family Fitness

And I Love Her Violins Elegant Ensembles for Special Occasions

Andersons Home & Garden Showplace

Anna Lind Photography

Berret’s Seafood Restaurant & Taphouse Grill

Big Top Entertainment

Branscome, Inc.

Budget Blinds of Williamsburg

Carter Machinery

Chef K Cooking

Cloud 9 VoIP, LLC

Colonial DJs

Colonial Sports

Compass Wealth Strategies

Daily Press

The Flower Cupboard

FootJoy

Gillette Law Group

Harris House of Henna

The Health Journal

Henry S. Branscome, LLC

HHHunt, Vickie Skutans

Hudgins Contracting

Integrated Audio Video, LLC

James A Burden DDS & Associates

James River Audio Visual Services

Johns Brothers Security + Schaubach Companies

Knights of Columbus Council 5480

Liberty Warehouse, Inc.

Mark’s Pest Control

Marrow Transportation

MatchSticks BBQ Co.

Merck

Micro Tour

Morrison’s Flowers & Gifts

Erwin Nachman

National Exterminators

Lynn Newcomer, Bagpiper

Oceans & Ale

P.J. Deyo Aerial Photography

PepsiCo

Point2Running, LLC

Printwell

Purity Day Spa

Quarterpath Dental

Queen of Virginia Skill & Entertainment Charitable Giving

Revolution Golf + Grille

Riverside Health System

Ryan Homes

Sign Visions

Signature Consultants

Sportsman’s Grille

Streamline Roofing

Towne Insurance + Towne Benefits

TowneBank

TPMG

Ultra Endodontics, LLC

Virginia Beer Company

The Virginia Gazette

Virginia Oncology Associates

The Virginia Turfgrass Association

Wedding Corner Invitations

Williams Landscape & Design, Inc.

Williamsburg Event Rentals

Williamsburg Families

Williamsburg Neck & Bank Center

Williamsburg Photo Booth

Williamsburg Salt Spa

Williamsburg Smiles

The Williamsburg Winery

WMBG AM 740 / FM 93.5 The Burg

WTKR, Jessica Larche

WYDaily

Wynne Ford-Volvo

*All businesses listed contributed to either the Annual “Breast” Ball Golf Tournament, the Pink Carpet Gala, or the Run for the Hills in 2019 as a sponsor or in-kind sponsor.

Category: Blog

, May 04, 2020 | More Post by

Our lives right now are all about staying home as much as possible, keeping our family and ourselves safe, and trying to contain our worry in a worrisome time. H4TG staff are right there with you trying to figure out how to navigate this new daily (temporary) normal! We’d like to share with you some of the ideas that have worked for us when it comes to de-stressing, figuring out how to work from home efficiently, managing kids, working in some sort of fun time, and more.

When the news first broke about the 180-degree shift all of our lives would take as a result of the coronavirus outbreak, I was devastated. Of course, it didn’t help that I decided to cope (at first) by making a digital scrapbook of my child’s artwork from daycare. I held items up one by one, telling my husband she wouldn’t get the chance to do various things and that the 2020 digital scrapbook would be blank. 

But as the days went on and the reality of the situation began to sink in, our 180 turned out to be anything but devastating. I look around our home and I see my daughter’s finger paint masterpiece hanging on the fridge and her carefully curated sticker montage sitting on her little table. There are tiny cars scattered across the rug in her playroom and 7 different stuffed bunnies sitting in her tepee. We each have dedicated offices in the house with hidden tricks to help offer inspiration to a soon-to-be 2-year-old. I have finger puppets and my husband has a random assortment of items in his drawers to help entertain her. She runs around and goes about her day not knowing what is going on. She laughs, makes silly faces, and shouts out the new words she is learning. She attempts to count everything and claps for herself after doing so.  She blows kisses throughout the day and runs over to give us hugs.

So how am I coping? I am coping by looking at life through the eyes of my daughter. I know this is temporary and that we will all get to some semblance of normal one day, but for now we are together and we are safe. 

-Victoria Riley, H4TG Director of Program + Operations

Category: Blog

, May 01, 2020 | More Post by

Age: 54, diagnosed at 48, No family history, No known genetic mutation

Joyce, a dental team coordinator, postponed getting a mammogram for four years as she didn’t have health insurance. When she finally got one, it led to a stage 1 breast cancer diagnosis. She had a lumpectomy and radiation but opted against chemotherapy. Joyce describes herself as a lifetime caregiver. From before the age of 20, she had custody of a niece and nephew and was a foster parent to two other kids. Later, she helped raise two stepchildren and a great-niece. She also took care of various family members. “I never took the time to worry about myself,” she says. “I never asked for help because I felt like I had to be the strong one that everyone else could lean on.” Even when she was diagnosed, she didn’t think she needed help. It wasn’t until she was diagnosed with ovarian cancer later that she finally reached out to H4TG. “I receive unlimited support from the group, and they give me an uplifting part of myself I wouldn’t have realized on my own.” The rebellious, fun-loving attitudes of women in the 1920s appeal to Joyce’s own sense of independence and her desire to live every day fully and with as much fun as possible.

, April 23, 2020 | More Post by

Our lives right now are all about staying home as much as possible, keeping our family and ourselves safe, and trying to contain our worry in a worrisome time. H4TG staff are right there with you trying to figure out how to navigate this new daily (temporary) normal! We’d like to share with you some of the ideas that have worked for us when it comes to de-stressing, figuring out how to work from home efficiently, managing kids, working in some sort of fun time, and more.

If you are like me, you suddenly find yourself searching for things to do with those extra cracks of time we now have. Suddenly, the wish that “if I just had more time to spend at home” has been granted. Absolutely not the way I would have wished for but here we are. Most of my time is filled with work, my family, reading and attempting to keep our house clean and organized. Not super exciting, I agree. So, I decided to use this interruption in my regular routine to try a little something new.

On a recent trip to Joann Fabrics with my husband, who needed some additional material to sew our COVID masks, I did something crazy. I bought yarn and a crochet hook. Full disclosure, I am not a crafty person by any means. But as I ogled all the pretty yarn colors, I thought to myself, here is your something new!  Once home, I make myself a cup of tea, get a comfy seat and proceed to search YouTube for videos on crocheting. I eagerly click on my first one, “How to Crochet Let Handed for Absolute Beginners”, sounds promising. I watch the instructor slowly go through the basics: how to hold the hook, how to correctly wrap the yarn around my fingers to create just the right amount of tension, create the slip knot and make the chain. I take a big gulp, pick up my hook to create my slip knot. Okay…just barely got that down, now onto the good stuff. I begin to make my chain. Hmm, okay how did she hold the yarn again? Let me go back and watch one more time. Oops, not quite right. Rewind. Well, that was a little confusing, I need to find another video!

Fast forward two hours and 5 videos later, my head is pounding, and I have a small foundation chain that looks as if its been mangled by a wild animal. I won’t even go into my attempts to learn how to single crochet! I have made a promise to myself not to give up, but I think I would get the most benefit from in-person instruction. So once life gets moving again, I think I will look for a class and see where it goes. But for now, I hear my husband and son in the den, and it sounds like they have got a good movie on. I make some popcorn and go join them.

-Karen Wilson, Fundraising & Marketing Manager 

, April 23, 2020 | More Post by

H4TG wants to help support the businesses and those in the local community who have supported us! SO many are facing difficult times during this COVID-19 crisis, and we are sending you our love and support.
Join Here for the Girls in showing our appreciation for these GENEROUS businesses and organizations that have gone ‘beyond pink’ for us in the past year by fundraising or organizing an event. We encourage you to show them the love!
Each week, we will be sharing names and links to other businesses and community donors, so check back!

AAPC Coders

A/C Masters Heating & Air Conditioning

ALOR

Alewerks Brewing Company

American Family Fitness

Aspire Young Professionals of Williamsburg

Barre by the Bay

Belk, Williamsburg

Berret’s Seafood Restaurant and Taphouse Grill

Billsburg Brewery

Boozefighters Motorcycle Club Ch. 126

Bright Smiles Cosmetic & Implant Dentistry

Chef K Cooking

Club Waka (Hampton Roads)

Christine Garvey Memorial Soccer Tournament

Desert of Virginia Prince Hall Shriners

Discover Teas

Dreams Gymnastics Center

Ford’s Colony Country Club

Hampton Yacht Club

Hughes Road Tree Farm

iShine For You Auto Detailing

Iron-Bound Gym

Kiwanis Club of Poquoson

Lularoe

The Micro Tour

Newport News Public Schools

Old Dudes Motorcycle Club

Paddle on of Williamsburg

Peninsula Women’s Network

Point 2 Running

Polish Nail Bar

Posh Afternoon Tea, hosted by Elaine Whiteley

Posh Salon

Revolution Golf and Grille

Rotary Club of Williamsburg

Ryan Homes

St. Joseph Foundation

Tidewater Browns Backers

TPMG Strive

Tysinger Automotive Family

Virginia Beach Sportsplex and Regional Training Center

Virginia Beach United

Virginia Beer Company

Walmart Distribution Center

Warhill Field Hockey

William & Mary Athletics

William and Mary Law School

Williamsburg Fraternal Order of Eagles Aerie 4548

Williamsburg Craft Beer Festival

Williamsburg Golf Club

Williamsburg Jewelers

Work Nimbly

Zyia Active

, April 15, 2020 | More Post by

Our lives right now are all about staying home as much as possible, keeping our family and ourselves safe, and trying to contain our worry in a worrisome time. H4TG staff are right there with you trying to figure out how to navigate this new daily (temporary) normal! We’d like to share with you some of the ideas that have worked for us when it comes to de-stressing, figuring out how to work from home efficiently, managing kids, working in some sort of fun time, and more.

I have to say I am the last person who would have thought this ‘stay-at-home’ order would have come to this point. A couple of weeks maybe yes, but months? Call me an optimist, an idealist, or nonchalant but whichever way, here we are — and it sure is different! Work-wise, I don’t mind working from home much and that silly laptop computer stand my husband bought me for Christmas, which I thought was stupid and an eyesore, I now use every single day! It really helps my forehead to not look 9 inches high during the 6 hours of Teams meetings we have every day. I can sit back more during these meetings, show the parts of my house to my colleagues that DON’T have laundry piled up or the extra coffee cups and sanitation station that looks like a scene from Grey’s Anatomy that my husband inspired.

When my husband works from home, we must be in different rooms. I cannot focus and also hear him talking in the background. I find I am micro-managing him, which is ludicrous because I actually have no idea what the hell he’s talking about. He is the one freaking out about COVID, he’s the one reminding the kids to wash their hands and take their temperature. I am the one trying to ease his fears, while he is the one focused on keeping us safe.

The kids? Okay, they are not kids. They are adults, but during quarantine, they are TOTALLY kids. A room in our house once used for arts and crafts, crayons, stickers, and finger painting became the place for ping pong and playing music as they grew up and attended high school. Now, at 18 and 21, they have recreated that art area and are painting on canvases, looking up album covers on their phones to replicate, and really taking their time too, ’cause, well you know, we got nothing but time! Also, my ‘kids’ have been playing board games, cards, puzzles, old Wii games like Mario Kart and 100-pin bowling. They invite mom and dad to join and relish in the idea that we totally suck at these even though we totally think we are going to kick their young little butts because we grew up on Pac-man. We have been playing a lot of pool and card games, having bonfires, and even painting the deck (which looks SO good), and offering more snuggling to our elderly beagle Bailey, who thinks this whole quarantine at home thing is as priceless as a Pupperoni snack.

No one expected to be here, and while so many suffer from health issues, the sudden financial crisis, and loneliness, I feel very blessed for what we have during this moment in history, which will be remembered for generations to come. I wonder how our world will be different after all of this. For the most part, my family’s COVID experience, so far, has been a pleasant one. We spend more time talking together, laughing together, eating together, and sharing our days – together. In this world of being apart from everyone else, our together is alright by me. 

-Vicki Vawter, Program and Community Outreach Manager

Category: Blog

, April 13, 2020 | More Post by

Our lives right now are all about staying home as much as possible, keeping our family and ourselves safe, and trying to contain our worry in a worrisome time. H4TG staff are right there with you trying to figure out how to navigate this new daily (temporary) normal! We’d like to share with you some of the ideas that have worked for us when it comes to de-stressing, figuring out how to work from home efficiently, managing kids, working in some sort of fun time, and more.


How in the world do you not go crazy sitting at home, confined with your family all the time in a small space (I love them, but who knew my hubby could chew loud enough that I can hear him from anywhere in the house?!), while still keeping the household running, the chores done, the kids’ homework done, the animals walked/fed, your job tasks completed, and the cows milked? Ok, so I don’t have cows, but the other stuff is legit. I am an introvert by nature (weird job choice for me, right?), so the staying home isn’t bugging me — it’s the NEVER ALONE part that is difficult. I love my husband and son, but I am absolutely not used to them being in my space all day, every day (well, almost every day – my husband is required to go into work 2 days a week). What’s a girl to do?Here are a few ways this introvert is carving out some ME (away from YOU) time over the past several weeks:

  • I’ve designated our guest room as the escape room. This is where any of us can go to get away without being disturbed. When the door is closed, the rest of the family knows that the person inside needs to not see your face for a bit. We’ve fixed up the inside to be as relaxing as possible.
  • I’ve been going on a walk by myself here and there. While it’s been great having family walks, I’ve decided it’s okay to take the dog and (in the kindest way possible) not invite anyone to come along.
  • I hate working outside, but it sure is an easy way to keep (at least my son) from wanting to tag along! Pulling weeds in the peace and quiet is ALMOST not a chore!
  • I started having baths again, versus showers. Who ever had time for a bath? Not me! Though my job still keeps me busy, I’ve decided that adding a bath-time back to my life (which I used to love as a teeneager) is a really good way to unwind a little bit. Keeping clean doesn’t always have to be a chore. Throw some candles and music in there, and it’s like a scene from a movie!

-Desiree Parker, Communications Manager