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, August 22, 2014 | More Post by

Donna Matherne of Williamsburg, VA, has been a Boober! for a year-and-a-half. She and her husband Chris are parents to two boys, Nathan and Joseph, so it is difficult for her to attend other Beyond Boobs! fundraisers because of family commitments. That is why she is doing everything she can for the 2015 calendar in order to raise funds for the group.Donna M

“Beyond Boobs! has been so helpful for me,” Donna said. “I had good support from my family and friends but I didn’t have anyone who really knew what it was like to have breast cancer. Being a Boober! gives me the chance to connect with other survivors and vent my feelings. I can complain and give voice to my true emotions without worrying about being judged because I am with other ladies who have been through the same experiences.”

Donna, 40, was diagnosed with breast cancer the first time in 2009 after trying to convince doctors that something was wrong for more than a year. The doctors kept telling her that everything was OK but she knew it wasn’t. She trusted herself and kept pushing to finally get the correct diagnosis. After six months of chemotherapy as well as reconstruction surgery after a mastectomy she was diagnosed with cancer again in 2012. She finished her second round of chemo last June. She stresses that women should trust their gut instincts and wants to share that message through her part in the calendar.

Donna believes that laughter is the best medicine and she received a hearty dose during her photo shoot. “There were lots of different movements for the poses and it was so comical,” she said. “Everyone at my shoot laughed the entire time. I had so much fun.”


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, August 15, 2014 | More Post by

Lucy McKay of Burke, VA, was first introduced to Beyond Boobs! when she attended the 2013 Dancing with the Stars event put on by BB!  She received a copy of A Calendar to Live By 2014, and when she saw it she knew that she wanted to be a part of

“I was in the middle of treatment when the photos were taken and I wanted to show people that a woman can be beautiful without hair,” she said. “In the midst of sickness, I was able to still have fun and keep a big smile on my face.”

Lucy has been through so much in the past four years. She was diagnosed with breast cancer the first time in September of 2010. She had numerous surgeries and a double mastectomy as well as chemotherapy. She was diagnosed with breast cancer again in September of 2013, underwent 6 months of chemotherapy and had surgery at the end of July. In September she will undergo radiation treatment.

She said the best part of modeling for the calendar was the camaraderie amongst all the women. She was also impressed by the diversity of the models. “Women can open up the calendar and see themselves in the photos,” she said. “I love that the calendar models were chosen based on their diagnoses and other factors and not their appearances.”

Lucy, 46, is the Director of Finance for Hofheimer Family Law Firm in Virginia Beach. They specialize in divorce and custody cases for women only and are the largest firm in the nation to handle such cases. She and her husband Jon have two children, Myles, 8, and Liam, 5.

, August 08, 2014 | More Post by

Tiffany Riddick of Powells Point, North Carolina, works as a nurse and is trained in how to take care of others. She wants to extend that care to breast cancer survivors by sharing her story through the 2015 Beyond Boobs!

Fellow Boobers! encouraged Tiffany, 43, to submit a modeling application but she wasn’t sure. One night she couldn’t sleep and when she checked her e-mail she saw a message from Beyond Boobs! requesting applications for models. She applied that night and could not believe it when she was chosen.

Tiffany feels the calendar represents strength, courage, and the determination to survive breast cancer and to also survive whatever life brings our way. Her son, Ethan, passed away in 2007. She knew that if she could get through the pain of losing him that she could win her battle with cancer, too.

“I am very humble,” Tiffany said. “Being in front of the camera was a big deal to me and a life-changing experience. I was so nervous about doing well at the photo shoot that I only remember one of the poses that I did.”

The attack of nerves was worth it for Tiffany, though. “It was a great honor to be chosen as a calendar model,” she said. “If sharing my life story and my strength can help others and make it easier for them then it was all worth it.”

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, August 01, 2014 | More Post by

Stephanie Schneider of White Stone, Virginia, knew she had a family history of breast cancer, but the 32-year-old never thought she would be diagnosed at such a young age. “My grandmother was diagnosed when she was 70,” Stephanie said. “I thought I had forever before I would have to worry about breast cancer.”DSC_1842

Stephanie had just received her diagnosis when she learned about Beyond Boobs! and saw their calendar for the first time. She showed the calendar to her daughters, Adele and Madison, and they encouraged her to become a model.

Stephanie and her husband Dave traveled an hour-and-a-half to the photo shoot and used that time as a mini couples retreat. That seems only fitting since Dave was the one who discovered the lump in her breast back in August of 2013.

“I am definitely the wallflower type, so it was a huge step for me to put myself in front of the camera,” Stephanie confided. “The photo shoot was so cool and I am looking forward to the unveiling at the Gala in September. I just hope that my photo portrays the theme that we were going for.

“When I was diagnosed with breast cancer I thought my life was over,” Stephanie said. “I want to show women that there is life after cancer and that they don’t have to fight the battle alone.”

, July 27, 2014 | More Post by

There were no support groups for young breast cancer survivors when Janell Nickols was diagnosed more than two decades ago. Now the 61-year-old James City County resident uses her experiences to show young survivors that a full life after diagnosis is possible. “I want to get the word out to other women that we can survive,” she said.20140214_191600

Janell encourages women to listen to their intuition and to pay attention to their bodies. Twenty-five years ago she was living in New York and happened to watch a biography about Minnie Riperton (best known for singing the 70s song “Lovin’ You”) who passed away at the age of 31 from breast cancer. After seeing that show Janell began to think that she didn’t feel quite right. She had no major symptoms but was later diagnosed with breast cancer.

“The cancer was detected because I listened to myself, my husband listened to me, and my doctor listened to me,” Janell said.

Janell is not normally a fan of having her picture taken because she always seems to blink just when the camera flashes. Other than that, though, she loved the photo shoot from start to finish. “I loved all the attention!” she exclaimed. “I am an extrovert and I loved getting all dressed up for the photos.”

Janell teaches fifth grade at Stonehouse Elementary School. She and her husband James have two children, Jennifer and Joel.

, July 18, 2014 | More Post by

Julia Jewel Martin attended the Beyond Boobs! Gala in 2013 and was inspired by the unveiling of the next year’s calendar. Tears came to her eyes as she looked around the room at all of the women whose lives had been affected by breast cancer. At that moment she decided to be a calendar model so she could help other women by sharing her story.julia

Julia is not shy about confessing her love for the camera. “The photographer and everyone at the shoot made me feel good,” she said. “I loved the dress I wore; it made me feel like a goddess. I felt pretty even with the scars from my breast reconstruction surgery.”

Julia loves and lives every moment of her life. She works at Our Lady of Hope as a recreation therapist, planning fun activities for the residents. She makes sure to schedule fun for her personal life, too.

“I am a shopaholic,” she said, laughing. “I love to buy new clothes. I used to ride a motorcycle and I want to get back to that now that the weather is warmer and my surgeries are done. I bought a guitar and recently paid for four lessons. My goal is to learn how to play over the next three weeks.”

Julia, 29, originally hails from Connecticut. She moved to Virginia in 2003 to attend Virginia Commonwealth University. She and her husband Eric live in Richmond with their three children.

“June 26th was the one-year anniversary of my diagnosis,” Julia said. “That was a big milestone for me. I made it one year and I plan for many more years to come.”

, July 11, 2014 | More Post by

Who are the 2015 BB! Calendar Models?  On September 20, our  Calendar To Live By 2015 will be revealed featuring our lovely breast cancer survivors and their stories that are sure to inspire you.  Join us in the next 11 weeks for “Calendar Girls 2015” BLOG Series to take a peek into the lives of these ladies and unite with us in anticipation of this year’s Pink Carpet Gala and the big ‘reveal’!

Amy Banks celebrates every year post diagnosis, but 2015 is going to be a particularly sweet year for the 39-year-old Norfolk resident – it will mark five years since she was diagnosed with stage 3 inflammatory breast cancer.

When Amy joined Beyond Boobs! and found out about the yearly calendar project she knew 1234762_10202096101433372_1577343133_nright away she wanted to be a model for 2015 to celebrate her important milestone and share her strength with other women facing a similar diagnosis.

“Everything I read said that the life expectancy was five years out,” Amy said. “I want to show other women that the statistics don’t mean you can’t live longer than that.”

Normally Amy is the one behind the camera so it was a little strange for her to have the lens trained on her. She quickly overcame any nervousness she may have felt. “I am definitely not shy when it comes to getting out there for the cause,” she said with a laugh.

Amy’s 16-year-old son John and her niece went with her to the photo shoot. “It was so cool to have them there with me,” she said. “My son was a vital part of my recovery and was there for me through the entire process. I also wanted to show my niece that there is support out there for women’s breast health.”

Amy is enthusiastic about the calendar and hopes every woman will have one hanging on her wall. “These calendars raise awareness about women’s health,” she said. “They tell the stories of breast cancer survivors and give women the tips and information they need to take care of their bodies.”

, June 11, 2014 | More Post by

I was diagnosed with breast cancer in November 2013 and attended my first BB! support gathering in February. By the time March rolled around, I learned about the 2014 Annual Boober! Retreat to be held in May.  I was hesitant to register, but my new support gathering friends assured me it would be an experience I would not forget.10287026_10204139330509625_3123795754595349414_o

I showed up at the Island Hopper house, renamed “Fantasy Island” for the weekend on May 2nd. I was three and a half weeks post TRAM reconstruction surgery. I only knew one person in my house upon arriving, but when I left on Sunday, I had a family of Boober! sisters. Everyone I was blessed to meet, greeted me with a warm smile and a hug. We were strangers before the weekend, but we had the bond of breast cancer. The sisterhood was instantaneous.

If I could describe my retreat weekend experience in one word, it would be “therapeutic.” Ever since my surgeries, I have struggled – would my body and life would ever feel normal again? This retreat surrounded me with so many strong and encouraging women who provided me with so much love. I met women who were newly diagnosed like me, some who were going through chemo, some who had the same reconstruction surgery as me, and some women who were two to five years post treatment and beyond. I learned that even though it doesn’t feel like it now, it WILL be okay on the other side of the hard times. This was a game changer for me. I met other women who have walked the path that I am on, and though all of our journeys are different, the core is the same. Survival. Fight. Win. Love. Live life to the fullest. It was a true display of our motto to “Live life with an exclamation point! not a period.” I am so glad that I went!

With love, Christy Birgen

, April 06, 2014 | More Post by

Young Survivor’s Conference Provides Fresh Perspective for Beyond Boobs! Volunteer

I recently had the pleasure of accompanying staff, volunteers, and members of Beyond Boobs! to the Young Survivor’s Conference in Orlando, and what an eye-opener it was! I’ve been a BB! volunteer for just over a year, and while I could talk and write about BB! convincingly, I can now feel its very heartbeat. That’s because this was my first opportunity to spend time with the young women who attend the support groups and benefit from the fun outings. Seeing is believing.

During the three-day conference, the 40+ members of the BB! brigade visited the 50 or so exhibitor booths representing breast cancer organizations, health advocates, and more that were showcasing the latest products and up-to-date information about breast cancer. Fun stuff, from henna tattoos to makeovers, and belly dancing to modern dancing made the event as much a social event as it was a conference about a very serious topic. The BB! booth was a hubbub of activity, lovingly staffed by Vicki, Celia, and a rotating band of boobers who charmed passersby into stopping for a

Informative seminar topics included: breast reconstruction, integrative medicine, metastatic breast cancer, and genetics. Discussion groups tackled triple-negative breast cancer, mortality, weight, family planning, and lymphedema.

The emotional aspects of breast cancer were also addressed, including sex and intimacy, talking to children about cancer, caregiving, survivor’s guilt, relationships, living with metastatic breast cancer, dating, and advocacy. BB! will be sharing much of this information in the months to come.

And then there was BB!’s very own, “Surviving Survivorship: Living Life with an Exclamation Point!” Presenting to a packed room, Rene and Mary Beth skillfully led their audience on a potentially hazardous road trip that, as it turns out, goes a bit more smoothly when you’re packing the right tools. The ladies had ‘em on their feet more than once during their interactive talk. Among the highlights was Rene’s striptease, during which she morphed from her serious black lawyerly suit into the glittery pink Good Health Fairy, complete with wand, tiara, and high-top sneakers. Energized fans exited in a wave of bubbles blown by strategically placed boobers. It would not be overstating to say they totally rocked the house! Did someone say, “Encore! Encore!?”

Throughout the conference, I observed the genuine love these women have for each other, along with a deeper appreciation for BB! and all it represents. The emotional connection – bonding, learning, growing, letting loose – was the living proof of the BB! tagline, “living life with an exclamation point (!).”

I shared the 13-hour road trip back home with Rene and Mary Beth and now I know something else, too. They never stop. It’s all systems go, all the time. Even as we made our way north, they continued to focus on their work, although “work” is probably the wrong word. It’s truly a labor of love.

I’m a survivor, a boober, but my breast cancer occurred at age 51, and my experiences were somewhat different than that of a woman in her 20s, 30s, or even her 40s. Now, when I do my bit as a volunteer, it will be with a fresh perspective. It did my heart good to watch the women of BB! take care of each other. Each of them has the strength of a family/team behind them. No matter what happens, the group has their back. They need never feel alone.

Young women need what BB! provides – not only the support system, but the fun that can so easily be dismissed while dealing with cancer. I’m grateful to BB! for allowing me to play a small part in its mission.