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, April 23, 2020 | More Post by

H4TG wants to help support the businesses and those in the local community who have supported us! SO many are facing difficult times during this COVID-19 crisis, and we are sending you our love and support.
Join Here for the Girls in showing our appreciation for these GENEROUS businesses and organizations that have gone ‘beyond pink’ for us in the past year by fundraising or organizing an event. We encourage you to show them the love!
Each week, we will be sharing names and links to other businesses and community donors, so check back!

AAPC Coders

A/C Masters Heating & Air Conditioning


Alewerks Brewing Company

American Family Fitness

Aspire Young Professionals of Williamsburg

Barre by the Bay

Belk, Williamsburg

Berret’s Seafood Restaurant and Taphouse Grill

Billsburg Brewery

Boozefighters Motorcycle Club Ch. 126

Bright Smiles Cosmetic & Implant Dentistry

Chef K Cooking

Club Waka (Hampton Roads)

Christine Garvey Memorial Soccer Tournament

Desert of Virginia Prince Hall Shriners

Discover Teas

Dreams Gymnastics Center

Ford’s Colony Country Club

Hampton Yacht Club

Hughes Road Tree Farm

iShine For You Auto Detailing

Iron-Bound Gym

Kiwanis Club of Poquoson


The Micro Tour

Newport News Public Schools

Old Dudes Motorcycle Club

Paddle on of Williamsburg

Peninsula Women’s Network

Point 2 Running

Polish Nail Bar

Posh Afternoon Tea, hosted by Elaine Whiteley

Posh Salon

Revolution Golf and Grille

Rotary Club of Williamsburg

Ryan Homes

St. Joseph Foundation

Tidewater Browns Backers

TPMG Strive

Tysinger Automotive Family

Virginia Beach Sportsplex and Regional Training Center

Virginia Beach United

Virginia Beer Company

Walmart Distribution Center

Warhill Field Hockey

William & Mary Athletics

William and Mary Law School

Williamsburg Fraternal Order of Eagles Aerie 4548

Williamsburg Craft Beer Festival

Williamsburg Golf Club

Williamsburg Jewelers

Work Nimbly

Zyia Active

, April 15, 2020 | More Post by

Our lives right now are all about staying home as much as possible, keeping our family and ourselves safe, and trying to contain our worry in a worrisome time. H4TG staff are right there with you trying to figure out how to navigate this new daily (temporary) normal! We’d like to share with you some of the ideas that have worked for us when it comes to de-stressing, figuring out how to work from home efficiently, managing kids, working in some sort of fun time, and more.

I have to say I am the last person who would have thought this ‘stay-at-home’ order would have come to this point. A couple of weeks maybe yes, but months? Call me an optimist, an idealist, or nonchalant but whichever way, here we are — and it sure is different! Work-wise, I don’t mind working from home much and that silly laptop computer stand my husband bought me for Christmas, which I thought was stupid and an eyesore, I now use every single day! It really helps my forehead to not look 9 inches high during the 6 hours of Teams meetings we have every day. I can sit back more during these meetings, show the parts of my house to my colleagues that DON’T have laundry piled up or the extra coffee cups and sanitation station that looks like a scene from Grey’s Anatomy that my husband inspired.

When my husband works from home, we must be in different rooms. I cannot focus and also hear him talking in the background. I find I am micro-managing him, which is ludicrous because I actually have no idea what the hell he’s talking about. He is the one freaking out about COVID, he’s the one reminding the kids to wash their hands and take their temperature. I am the one trying to ease his fears, while he is the one focused on keeping us safe.

The kids? Okay, they are not kids. They are adults, but during quarantine, they are TOTALLY kids. A room in our house once used for arts and crafts, crayons, stickers, and finger painting became the place for ping pong and playing music as they grew up and attended high school. Now, at 18 and 21, they have recreated that art area and are painting on canvases, looking up album covers on their phones to replicate, and really taking their time too, ’cause, well you know, we got nothing but time! Also, my ‘kids’ have been playing board games, cards, puzzles, old Wii games like Mario Kart and 100-pin bowling. They invite mom and dad to join and relish in the idea that we totally suck at these even though we totally think we are going to kick their young little butts because we grew up on Pac-man. We have been playing a lot of pool and card games, having bonfires, and even painting the deck (which looks SO good), and offering more snuggling to our elderly beagle Bailey, who thinks this whole quarantine at home thing is as priceless as a Pupperoni snack.

No one expected to be here, and while so many suffer from health issues, the sudden financial crisis, and loneliness, I feel very blessed for what we have during this moment in history, which will be remembered for generations to come. I wonder how our world will be different after all of this. For the most part, my family’s COVID experience, so far, has been a pleasant one. We spend more time talking together, laughing together, eating together, and sharing our days – together. In this world of being apart from everyone else, our together is alright by me. 

-Vicki Vawter, Program and Community Outreach Manager

Category: Blog

, April 13, 2020 | More Post by

Our lives right now are all about staying home as much as possible, keeping our family and ourselves safe, and trying to contain our worry in a worrisome time. H4TG staff are right there with you trying to figure out how to navigate this new daily (temporary) normal! We’d like to share with you some of the ideas that have worked for us when it comes to de-stressing, figuring out how to work from home efficiently, managing kids, working in some sort of fun time, and more.

How in the world do you not go crazy sitting at home, confined with your family all the time in a small space (I love them, but who knew my hubby could chew loud enough that I can hear him from anywhere in the house?!), while still keeping the household running, the chores done, the kids’ homework done, the animals walked/fed, your job tasks completed, and the cows milked? Ok, so I don’t have cows, but the other stuff is legit. I am an introvert by nature (weird job choice for me, right?), so the staying home isn’t bugging me — it’s the NEVER ALONE part that is difficult. I love my husband and son, but I am absolutely not used to them being in my space all day, every day (well, almost every day – my husband is required to go into work 2 days a week). What’s a girl to do?Here are a few ways this introvert is carving out some ME (away from YOU) time over the past several weeks:

  • I’ve designated our guest room as the escape room. This is where any of us can go to get away without being disturbed. When the door is closed, the rest of the family knows that the person inside needs to not see your face for a bit. We’ve fixed up the inside to be as relaxing as possible.
  • I’ve been going on a walk by myself here and there. While it’s been great having family walks, I’ve decided it’s okay to take the dog and (in the kindest way possible) not invite anyone to come along.
  • I hate working outside, but it sure is an easy way to keep (at least my son) from wanting to tag along! Pulling weeds in the peace and quiet is ALMOST not a chore!
  • I started having baths again, versus showers. Who ever had time for a bath? Not me! Though my job still keeps me busy, I’ve decided that adding a bath-time back to my life (which I used to love as a teeneager) is a really good way to unwind a little bit. Keeping clean doesn’t always have to be a chore. Throw some candles and music in there, and it’s like a scene from a movie!

-Desiree Parker, Communications Manager

, April 10, 2020 | More Post by

H4TG wants to help support the businesses & those in the local community who have supported us! Many are facing difficult times during this time of social distancing; we send our love and support to all of you.

Join Here for the Girls in showing our appreciation for these ROCKSTAR restaurants and breweries! Just click on the names of the businesses below* and check out some of the great takeout and delivery options available!**

Each week, we will be sharing ways to support other businesses and community donors, so stay tuned to our blog!

*All businesses listed either raised funds on behalf of H4TG or donated funds, gift certificates, services, or prizes to H4TG for our one of our signature events or retreats in the past year.

**Available options for current food and drink operations were obtained from the business’s main website.

Aberdeen Barn

Alewerks Brewing Company– Online Takeout and Delivery Available

Anatolia’s Bar and Grill

Aromas Coffeehouse and Bakery – Online Ordering Available

Berret’s Seafood Restaurant and Taphouse Grill– Online Ordering Available

Billsburg Brewery

Blue Talon

Bonefish Grill, Williamsburg – Online Takeout and Delivery Available

Brass Cannon Brewing

Bruster’s Real Ice Cream

Captain George’s Seafood

Carino’s Seafood

Carrot Tree Restaurant and Bakery

The Cheesecake Factory

Chef K Cooking

The Cheese Shop/Fat Canary – Take Out Available

Cochon on Second – Online Take Out & Delivery Available

Cogan’s Deli & Sports Pub – Online Take Out Available

The Coffeehouse

Donato’s Pizza

Extraordinary Cupcakes

Fat Tuna Grill – Touchless Take Out and Delivery Available

Food For Thought – Easter Meals Available

Honey Butter’s Kitchen

The Hound’s Tale

Jimmy’s Oven and Grill – Online Ordering Available

La Terraza Mexican Grill – Online Takeout and Delivery Available

Longhorn Steakhouse Newport News – Curbside To Go Available

Matchsticks BBQ Food Truck – – Online Ordering Available

Mission BBQ – Online Takeout and Delivery Available

NEST Kitchen & Taphouse– Online Takeout and Delivery Available

Oceans and Ale – Take Out Family Meals Available

Old Chickahominy House

Opus 9

Revolution Golf and Grille – Take Out Family Meals Available

Rocco’s Smokehouse Grill – Online Takeout and Delivery Available

Sage Kitchen at Anderson’s– Online Take Out Available

Sal’s by Victor– Online Takeout and Delivery Available

Silverhand Meadery – Online Take Out Available

Smallcakes Cupcakery

Sportsmans Grille

Texas Roadhouse – Take Out Family Meals Available

Traditions Brewing– Online Takeout and Delivery Available

Tucanos Brazilian Grill

Tuscany Italian Restaurant

Virginia Beer Company – Curbside To Go Available

The Williamsburg Winery– Curbside To Go Available

Willies Grill & Icehouse, San Antonio, TX– Online Takeout and Delivery Available

The Wine Seller – Online Take Out or Delivery Available

Zoes Kitchen, Williamsburg

Category: Blog

, April 06, 2020 | More Post by

April, age 41, diagnosed at 37, No family history, No known genetic mutation.

April felt a lump on her breast but blew it off. Because the lump was still there six months later, she mentioned it at an unrelated medical appointment. Tests were immediately ordered, and despite assurances it was probably nothing, it was something – stage 2 breast cancer. She underwent a bilateral mastectomy and chemotherapy. On active duty with the Air Force, she was assigned a nurse case manager (Shawnna, Ms. February 2020), who was an immense help. When a year later Shawnna told April that she had breast cancer and would be going to the next H4TG support gathering too, April was floored! After leaving the military and moving to North Carolina, April was selected as a calendar model and was thrilled to see that her former nurse would be along for the adventure. April’s breast cancer journey has been difficult, but “each day I’m reminded how lucky I am to be given another day to reflect on it all.” April’s parents taught her to be a strong, independent woman who made her own way in the world. “My education and career paths helped make me the person I am today, and without the progressive ideals of the 1920s, I wouldn’t have had those opportunities.”

, April 03, 2020 | More Post by

As an organization that serves young women affected by breast cancer, we make sure to keep up with the latest news so we know what our women face when it comes to treatment and beyond. In this blog series, we will share the month’s news that we feel is most interesting and relevant.

March 6: Researchers are getting closer to identifying how bisphenol-A (BPA) may promote breast cancer tumor growth with help from a molecule that affects gene growth. BPA has been widely used in plastics, such as food storage containers, the lining of canned goods and, until recently, baby bottles. Previous studies have linked BPA to problems with reproductive development, early puberty, obesity and cancers. Read more in Science Daily HERE.

March 10: From a simple blood draw, microbial DNA may reveal who has cancer and which type, even at early stages. Researchers have developed a novel method to identify who has cancer, and often which type, by simply analyzing patterns of microbial DNA — bacterial and viral — present in their blood. The study may change how cancer is viewed, and diagnosed; more research is being conducted. Read the whole story in Science Daily HERE.

March 20: Cholesterol-lowering statins are commonly used to help prevent heart disease. Now a new study hints that they could shield women’s hearts from the harms of certain breast cancer drugs. The study focused on women who’d been treated with either chemotherapy drugs called anthracyclines or the medication Herceptin. Though the treatments can be lifesaving, they can also damage the heart muscle enough to eventually cause heart failure. But researchers found that when women were on statins during treatment, they were up to two-thirds less likely to develop heart failure in the years afterward. Read more in Health Day HERE.

March 23: There are substantial costs associated with breast cancer screenings for U.S. women in their 40s, a new Yale-led study finds, and these costs vary widely by region. “These high costs underscore the importance of ramping up our research efforts to determine whether screening women in their 40s is beneficial or not,” said senior author Dr. Cary Gross, Yale professor of medicine and a member of the Yale Cancer Center. “Because there is no consensus about the appropriate approach to breast cancer screening in this population, it is impossible to know how we should be investing our prevention dollars.” Read the full story in Yale News HERE.

March 27: A new study has found that women who gain weight from early adulthood are at a reduced risk of developing breast cancer before they reach menopause. The study builds on previous research which found that women who weighed more as young adults had a reduced risk of premenopausal breast cancer. (Weight gain after menopause increases risk, however.) Read the full story on Medical News Today HERE.

, March 06, 2020 | More Post by

48, diagnosed at 46

No family history, No known genetic mutation

Joyce noticed a divot in her right breast and mentioned it at her annual exam. After receiving a stern lecture from her gynecologist about keeping up with her annual mammograms, Joyce promised to get one. Within a week of the mammogram, and with her husband (who had rushed home from a work trip) by her side, Joyce received a diagnosis of stage 1 breast cancer. During treatment that included chemo, a lumpectomy, and radiation, Joyce continued her full-time work in communications while being mom to her active 11-year-old son. “I am a professional communicator, but it was hard for me to tell people about the diagnosis,” she says. A dear friend encouraged her to share her story, and this helped her get the love and support she needed from “Team Joyce,” her tribe of friends and family. She’d like to use her skills as a communicator to give hope and inspiration to other women facing breast cancer – some of which she found for herself in the calendar theme. “As a cancer survivor-in-progress, I find the stories of how women in the 1920s had the fortitude and willpower to make it through a war, overcome adversity, and create a new way for themselves to be so inspiring.”

, March 06, 2020 | More Post by

As an organization that serves young women affected by breast cancer, we make sure to keep up with the latest news so we know what our women face when it comes to treatment and beyond. In this blog series, we will share the month’s news that we feel is most interesting and relevant.

February 22: Waiting between 31 and 90 days to first treatment after diagnosis with breast cancer may be beneficial for doctors and patients who want a more extensive diagnostic plan and additional time to make decisions, according to the results of a new study. Importantly, this waiting period is not expected to compromise survival rates, according to the data. The American Journal of Managed Care (AJMC) has the whole story HERE.

February 25: The intake of dairy milk is associated with a greater risk of breast cancer in women — up to 80% depending on the amount consumed — according to a new study. Consuming as little as 1/4 to 1/3 cup of dairy milk per day was associated with an increased risk of breast cancer of 30% in the study, and by drinking up to one cup per day, the associated risk went up to 50%. For those drinking two to three cups per day, the risk increased further to 70% to 80%. Read the full story on Science Daily HERE.

February 26: A novel blood test that uses gold nanoparticles to detect cancer has also been shown to identify signals released by cancer cells which could result in earlier diagnosis and better treatment. The discovery could lead to more effective, personalized cancer therapy by allowing oncologists to rapidly determine how treatment is progressing. Read the full story in Medical Express HERE.

February 26: The immunotherapy drug Keytruda might offer a new treatment option to women with triple negative breast cancer, an aggressive form of the disease, according to a clinical trial. Get details in HealthDay HERE.

February 28: Regular exercise can benefit black cancer survivors’ physical and mental health, but most don’t get the recommended amount of activity, according to new study of 1,500 black survivors of the four most common cancers. For most cancers, black patients have a higher risk of dying from their disease than other racial or ethnic groups, but lower levels of physical activity, researchers said. Read the whole article on HealthDay HERE.

, February 05, 2020 | More Post by

Shawnna 41, diagnosed at 39

No family history, PALB2 genetic mutation

Shawnna, mother of three and military wife, felt a lump one day when crossing her arms and quickly sought testing that revealed stage 3B triple negative breast cancer. As a nurse, she’d worked with many breast cancer patients, including Ms. April 2020, but she never expected the tables to turn. “I thought I knew what it was like until I was diagnosed and had to have a bilateral mastectomy, chemo, and radiation,” Shawnna said. Joining H4TG was a natural step. Having introduced many of her patients to them, she understood how crucial H4TG could be during and after breast cancer treatment. Now she has experienced and continues to benefit from the special loving support H4TG offers. As the nurse who became the patient, Shawnna has this unique perspective to share. The 1920s represent to Shawnna the dawn of the new woman and changing attitudes towards their roles and abilities and epitomizes a favorite quote, “Rise up.” Since her diagnosis, Shawnna feels she is a new woman, too, saying, “I am more comfortable with myself than ever before. I realized my worth, my strength, and what I have to offer this world.” This focus on personal well-being is one message she’d like to share with other survivors.

, February 03, 2020 | More Post by

As an organization that serves young women affected by breast cancer, we make sure to keep up with the latest news so we know what our women face when it comes to treatment and beyond. In this blog series, we will share the month’s news that we feel is most interesting and relevant.

Jan. 7: Google’s latest artificial intelligence tool designed to analyze mammograms might be as effective as human radiologists (or better), but critics question whether researchers are applying A.I. to the right problem when it comes to finding and treating breast cancer. Read a detailed article on the possible pros and cons of this tool in the Smithsonian Magazine HERE.

Jan. 11: Recent experiments in mouse models have shown that injecting an inactivated flu virus into cancer tumors makes them shrink and boosts the effectiveness of immunotherapy. Read more about this new research in Medical News Today HERE.

Jan. 17: Minority women with breast cancer are less likely to have insurance, which could lower their odds of survival, according to a new study. The study found that whites were more likely to have insurance when they were diagnosed than blacks, American Indian/Alaska Natives, Asian/Pacific Islanders and Hispanics. Lack of insurance is a major cause of delayed breast cancer screening and treatment among women in minority groups, researchers noted. Being uninsured or underinsured accounted for nearly half of the gap in later-stage diagnosis between white and minority women. Read more in an article from Health Day HERE.

Jan. 24: A recent article in the journal Medical Hypotheses advises that eating yogurt may help reduce the risk of breast cancer. The suggestion is based on research that indicates that yogurt contains beneficial bacteria which dampens inflammation and is similar to the bacteria found in breastfeeding mothers. Read more about this link between eating yogurt and breast cancer risk on Science Daily HERE.

Jan. 30: The closing of rural hospitals and specialty care units is causing many people, including breast cancer patients, to seek treatment far from home. A study from the University of Minnesota School of Public Health recently found that U.S. rural breast cancer patients typically travel three times farther than urban women for radiation therapy to treat their disease. Read more about this treatment disparity on the University of Minnesota website HERE.

Jan. 30:  A new study from New York might completely change how triple negative breast cancer is classified and treated. Researchers have discovered that the molecular mechanisms involved in triple negative breast cancer are more closely related to non-breast cancers, and two specific gene mutations may be responsible for the tumor development. If the therapy suggested in the study is successful, it would very likely lead to the reclassification of triple negative breast cancer. Read more in Clinical OMICs HERE.